From the DESK 12-3-2014

      Greetings Friends! Hope all is well with you ALL, I have been super busy here lately, with the holidays, family events, private events, the radio show, and my personal life...phew trust me it's a lot lol, speaking of being busy...very very soon I plan a small getaway for a few days. I am thinking of a nice cozy cottage in the Forest that I know of and have retreated there several times before. The place this time of year is very tranquil and peaceful but most importantly is the silence. All you hear is pure nature...the wide array of birds singing and chirping throughout the morning and day, the water as the small waves crash against the clifts. It is a lake not the ocean lol just so you know...but a big lake so good enough I suppose until I can make a trip back to the gulf or pacific....anyway Yes I plan on getting away soon tor recharge myself and just take a well needed BREAK! So this new getting back on spreaker.com thing with the radio show has become a challenge and I am bound and determined to make it work and be picked up by iheartradio...as of so far we  have completed about 75% of what they asked of us so we are on our way and I have faith we will be picked up by them. Moving on...Recently I got my F.o,i,d, card( fire owners identification card) to own a gun. So I have been gun shopping and found what I thought was perfect...not! I finally was able to test it yesterday at a local shooting range, which by the way was my first time EVER at a shooting range lol...anyway I got my gear on safety glasses and ear protecting muffs, I loaded the little .22 Magnum handgun(chrome in color with a rosewood handle, was pretty) So I finally shot it about 8 times before the bottom chamber(had two chambers,fired 2 at once) didn't shoot the ammo out and it kept doing it that...so my Intuition strongly kicked on and I instantly stopped using it, so then with the owner of the range being a world class marksmen and a State Trooper, I told and showed him the issue. He examined the gun and told me it was very unsafe and He was suprised the ammo didn't blow up inside the barrel while I was holding it! Needless to say I returned it yesterday afterwards and got a .32 Auto instead. I like the way the gun looks but thinking I am going to try to go with a 9mm pistol instead for many reasons. So today when I went to the range to shoot the .32 (holds 6 rds) I shot for awhile and it was actually a lot of fun and I have NEVER been a gun person so to speak. But I messed up by after shooting a round, while I was reloading the mag, i took my ear muffs off and when I went to shoot again forgot to put them back on until the first shot and my left ear started to ring. So now ever since my ear has been feeling super odd like I am hearing through a funnel or something. Hopefully it will be gone by 2moro :-) Moving on to the blog i prepared late last night. I wrote on this topic for many reasons, I am an observer, a people watcher by nature and examine everything about them without even realizing it lol. One thing I have noticed over the past few years is not only many very KNOWLEDGEABLE young people being underestimated due to their age. I think that is just flat out rude and wrong, I have dealt with this many times and still do every once in a while and it's not only frustrating but a bit hurtful..so if you are over the age of 40 and reading this blog...give us/the young people with knowledge and gifts, a chance...YOU might acutally learn from them or vice versa :-) Moving on...  I have noticed people in our society love things and use people. People are used to getting places in life and some in many easy ways , climbing ladders, and selling and buying stuff,needless stuff or too much. Things,People, Celebs, even the kids, are what most people fantasize about and sought after in the same greedy ways.  Most of us Westerners live with more, but have much in the materialistic sense/realm and increasingly less in the spiritual and emotional sense/realm. We may have flashy new cars, nice homes, a boat, the latest tablets or PCs, and lots of technological gadgets and other stuff. More than we'd ever use half the time in our lives. Or if we do use them all, there's less time left for doing 'internal' work with ourselves or relating ,helping, and communicating peacefully with people which is way more important. Not only do we love things but we tend to use people. Our closest relationships are typically there for us, and for our disposal, which isn't a good idea unless it is toxic and unfixable for you. We all love our spouses, kids, and families but how often do we sell them out to/for our own needs? Has being kind of selfish been a starter for a arguement? Ask yourself that and think about it and chances are we all have done it at one point. Even those at work, colleagues and acquaintances, where they may try to mentally conceive where they might manipulate a discussion, meeting or relationship to serve their own purposes -- for instance, to be heard, promoted, etc. The final straw is where the selfish behavior of using people reaches the lowest standard, where many  people are consistantly abused wholesale for making innocent mistakes, being too nice or generou, and yet we try and gain a fractional advantage by swapping lanes incessantly.Sick...Do I sound harsh? Perhaps. There is no doubt there are many people who have the balance the other way, the right way, around. That is to put people first and utilize things as required. "Love people, use things" could be the motto.

What should we do to reinforce the motto?

Love People:

- Listen to people and be patient with them.

- Be prepared to lose the odd battle for the greater benefit of the team (or family).

- Give more than you receive.

- Say sorry often when you make mistakes and mean it.

- Give people the best resource you can give them; your time and Love. Now that's a good investment!

- When you're out in the world, respect and care about  fellow human beings, especially people you don't know.

Use Things:

- Resist the love of things. Stop materialism in its NOW.

- Reject "retail therapy" as a poor excuse it is.

- Be thankful for the things you've accumulated but don't worship them.

- Don't waste the resources available to you; respect them appropriately and appreciate what you DO have.

- Try sharing your things with other people, and even give them away if they serve you no valid purpose anymore.

No one would admit to not loving their families or friends as much as their stuff, materialism,ego, etc,, but this is a firm challenge for each one of us to get the balance more into the "love people, use things" life pattern. If we do this we can also tap into the reservoir of our own psyche to not only become a better person, but become more balanced and more spiritual at the same time. It just irritates me thinking about people like this.

FEEL FREE TO FOLLOW, SHARE, COMMENT, EMAIL, OR JUST READ :-)   TRULY, DENNIS KELLY

STRESS ANYONE?? :-)

                     THE DENNIS KELLY CENTER

Hello Friends! World wide..I say world wide because my insights show what nations my readers are reading from. I must say I am deeply thankful for all the nations that take the time to read my personal blogs. Special thanks just to name a few are the U.S., Russia, Germany, Kenya, Uganda, Slovakia, France, and quite a bit more. For those I have not named I still appreciate YOU ALL equally. So Lately in the Life of ME, On this past tuesday about 4 days ago I under went another Surgery that had to do with the urology system. I am now at home recovering. The surgery was a bit tough this time around but nevertheless GOD willing I made it through. Now...the recovery process is the hardest to me. But I am recovering very well and I am thankful for that. The more rest and time I take for myself, the faster I notice I heal. Also reducing STRESS which is actually the TOPIC of this blog. I wanted to blog about STRESS because every human can relate to it one way or another. AS most of you know it's well known stress is a killer and can cause sooo much unneeded crap. Have you ever been completely stressed about something? I mean, worried beyond repair about a situation or a decision you have to make. I've been there before many times and, let me tell you, it is not a pretty thing. I still deal with daily high levels of stress due to personal life, work life, family, society, and all kinds of triggers. Sometimes occasionally I feel stress is actually killing me. But I have learned several ways to help calm, and collect during overwhelming stressful moments. Deep breathing helps to calm, but personally I have found YOGA, talking to loved ones and friends. Or just sometimes taking a walk in the forest...nature is provides great therapy. I won't go into ALL my Stressors in this blog because now is not the time but perhaps someday I will spill it lol. We all know Stress has a sneaky way of taking over your thoughts and your body and Your LIFE for that matter. Just to give you a brief overview of what I have learned and studied about stress is  the physiological changes you experience when you are stressed out, you can have such physical reactions as elevated heart rate, low energy, headaches, upset stomach, rapid heart beat, insomnia, depression,  and a whole slew of other nasty little problems. But, I'm sure you already know that. Given the fact that 85% of all adult Americans are walking around in a stressed-out state, we are very familiar with the effects of stress, whether we realize it or not want to admit it. So what are we to do about it? What are our options? Some things, like environmental factors are beyond our control. And if these things are part of your triggers for stress, you can do very little about them. But then there are other things that we can do something about, such as finances, children, work, etc. You just have to know how to separate the two categories and act accordingly. If things fall into the "out of my control" category, then you take a deep breath, and plan as best you can and then you let it go. If you truly can't do anything about it, then there is absolutely no reason for you to place your body in a stressful situation. A lot of our stressors fall into this category and yet we still want to continue to worry about them. This is a mistake on our part because helplessness combined with stress leaves you feeling utterly hopeless. Trust me I would be the FIRST to know lol...If your stressors fall into the other category, meaning you can do something about them, then it is always better to attack the problem head on I personally feel. You feel empowered the more you attack the issue(s) (i do anyway) versus shrinking back from it and hiding or masking it with an addicition of sorts. Have you noticed how much more confident and better you feel when you finally do that THING you've been putting off forever because it stressed you out? This same feeling can happen with most, if not all of our stressors as long as you don't give rise to the procrastination issue. Procrastination and apathy has caused more people to be stressed out than any other action from what I have seen and went through. I have seen evidence of this in my own life countless times. I think trying our BEST to be and think positive about EVERY situation is a key also even though it is easier said than done, it is possible. I personally think if we ALL  Decide once and for all to stop procrastinating and to get things done. Even if you/we don't have it all figured out at the moment at hand, begin to act on what you do know and what you do know how to do. Because when you begin to attack that portion of the project or decision, we may eventually get the ANSWERS  that will begin to develop along the way and change our lives for the better. Sometimes the best way to get over stress is to just act. I know that Life will always have stressors...BUT it does NOT mean WE should or have to live in a total state of stress or even become so overwhelmed with it to the point of actual harm to our lives. If you find that dealing with your stress is getting the best of you and you want some additional help in that area, I'd recommend the use of essential oils, herbs, Vitamins and EVERYTHING natural. They are non-habit forming, non-addictive, and they can be used in conjunction with any other medical treatments you may be having. My recommendation is to get your stuff from www.terramaterbotanicals.com They have the best and accomidate the customers needs the best they can. Well my Friends I hope that this little tid bid or ramble lol...helped some. I hate knowing or seeing ANYONE suffer from anything especially so much stress. Thank YOU for stopping by my blog and FEEL FREE TO SHARE, COMMENT BECAUSE I LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU....YOU CAN ALSO BECOME A FOLLOWER, IT ONLY TAKES ABOUT 2 MINUTES TO SIGN UP AND THATS IT SO IF YOU HAVE THE TIME BECOME A FOLLOWER OF MINE. Some side notes below Is a photo of Donna Douglas and I just days before surgery at a Public event I broadcasted from. She is best known for her role as Elly Mae Clampett from the Hit sitcom The Beverly Hillbillies. Donna Douglas was very sweet and gracious, she seemed to be a very genuine woman. The Event was The Graffiti Car Show...It was hot and lots of people but I enjoyed it. It is the little things in life that make up the BIG things. I also had a chance to Record a few local musicians playing their original song titled "Elly Mae" and they actually got a chance to sing it to her. I recorded it at the Owl Creek Gazette Office on south second st. in downtown Greenville,Il  If you would like to catch that episode where I broadcasted from the event you can catch it on our friend radio show "Creekside w/Don&Jan" It airs every Sunday evening at 7:00p.m. central time on podomatic. You can go to their website www.owlcreekgazette.com and listen to the episode or download. The Great folks from the Creekside show was kind enough to play parts of the broadcast on their show this on episode 20. So the broadcast aired Saturday Night on my radio show and then again on sunday night's episode on "Creekside w/Don&Jan". Well my friends until next time feel free to comment like I said before or if you want to comment private feel free to shoot me an email at: mr.denniskelly@gmail.com

                                                  Truly, Dennis Kelly

VIDEO FOR YOU TO SLEEP TO OR TURN ON WHEN YOU NEED TO DECOMPRESS :-)

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"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” 
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross



Hi Friends, It has been a super long week ugh! Even though I don't really have any set days off of works and projects. Sunday's are the easiest day and my favorite day of the week..its laid back..usually lol. This week my cell has become a complete piece of bat guano to say the least. So after at least 7 years or more of constant issues with cell phones and plans and such. I am choosing to go complete NO contract and total prepaid. I have did my research YOU folks in a contract may get just one perk that I can think of by being trapped in the contract and that perk is that you get the phone you want at a very cheap price compared to the complete price. So if you want an Iphone5 save up and buy one prepaid or what ever kind of phone you want. By doing this switch 2moro, I will not only be in a trapped contract anymore but will save well over $100 a month. Not to mention have the SAME features and unlimited everything including data. Yes the phone I get won't be the same as the crap phone i have now lol. But I have researched and found one comparable to the Samsung Galax S2,which is the phone that went nuts on me not to mention SPRINT's service in my area is horrible. The New prepaid carrier I am chosing uses At&t and Verizon towers to bounce from..to me this is good lol. I will for sure give YOU a review on the new phone venture lol. Now moving on to the reason I am blogging this late, basically already early today lol. Anywhooo, I want to speak about empathy and the total LACK of empathy that seems to spreading to many and across the world for quite sometime now....As an anonymous English author wrote: "To empathize is to see with the eyes of another, to hear with the ears of another, and to feel with the heart of another." You may wonder why is empathy important?In my opinion the real world bottom line, is that the lack of empathy leads to poor communication and a failing to understand others. Lack of empathy leads to all sorts of problems in our world. I mean seriously LOOK around our world is literally falling apart.....Nations going to war nonstop, innocent people are killed, couples divorce, increase in all forms of crime and violence and so much more horrible things occuring as you read - ALL for a lack of empathy and understanding. It is natural to become angry when frustrated or irritated with people who do or say things at variance our worldview, that may be annoying, a parasite etc. To manage anger, it often helps to see our anger as a combination of their behavior and our actual lack of empathy. While we cannot control other's thoughts, feelings or behaviors, we most certainly can increase our empathy skills. To try and  control our anger with increased empathy, three basic skills are required: listening, self-awareness and acceptance. Empathic listening is a type of listening that goes further than ordinary listening. This type of listening uses another person's point of view to see the world as others see it. It provides a higher level of understanding of how others feel. With what I call "Intuitive Empathic" to me goes deeper than this sort of emapthy...that will be future blog lol. Self-awareness occurs as we better understand our own thoughts and feelings. I believe we are then better able to understand the thoughts and feelings of someone else. The more open we are to our own feelings, the more skilled we become at reading someone else's feelings, and generally the less angry we may feel toward them. Acceptance, on the other hand, is the ability to see that others have a right to their "ridiculous" feelings. We must allow people to have feelings without telling them how they should feel. We cannot stop others from having feelings. Someone with normal emapthy would understand this. When we accept others as they are, it simply means that we understand that they are doing the best they can at the time. Remember, if they could do any better, they probably would. Acceptance of others' feelings is not easy when people act differently than we do. We all have difficulty with those who are different, even if a tiny bit. By tapping into the  skill of empathy, we will be better able to understand ourselves and others. Here are are just a few lil  simple rules I i personally use in addition to other things within myself to be more empathetic.
*Pay attention to the feelings that others express. Watch for both verbal and nonverbal clues as well as body laugnage . Try to understand the message behind the words and actions.
*Place the feelings of other's ahead of your own. Put aside your own needs and ideas long enough to listen to another's point of view.
*Communicate your understanding. Respond or give answers to the messages you receive to show you understand them in a major way if not fully.
* Actually LISTEN not merely just hear.... Let the speaker finish what they are saying before you talk.
*Ask the person to elaborate more or ask for more information. If you still don't understand, ask more questions until you fully understand.
Well I hope Friends this little thought of mine may have interested or hopefully helped someone out there in this hectic world find peace or what they may have been needing.
Thanks Friends for stopping by! I deeply appreciate all of you who stop by and read my world as well as those of you who are FOLLOWERS and COMMENT. I thank you all!

                                            Truly, Dennis..