From the DESK 12-3-2014

      Greetings Friends! Hope all is well with you ALL, I have been super busy here lately, with the holidays, family events, private events, the radio show, and my personal life...phew trust me it's a lot lol, speaking of being busy...very very soon I plan a small getaway for a few days. I am thinking of a nice cozy cottage in the Forest that I know of and have retreated there several times before. The place this time of year is very tranquil and peaceful but most importantly is the silence. All you hear is pure nature...the wide array of birds singing and chirping throughout the morning and day, the water as the small waves crash against the clifts. It is a lake not the ocean lol just so you know...but a big lake so good enough I suppose until I can make a trip back to the gulf or pacific....anyway Yes I plan on getting away soon tor recharge myself and just take a well needed BREAK! So this new getting back on spreaker.com thing with the radio show has become a challenge and I am bound and determined to make it work and be picked up by iheartradio...as of so far we  have completed about 75% of what they asked of us so we are on our way and I have faith we will be picked up by them. Moving on...Recently I got my F.o,i,d, card( fire owners identification card) to own a gun. So I have been gun shopping and found what I thought was perfect...not! I finally was able to test it yesterday at a local shooting range, which by the way was my first time EVER at a shooting range lol...anyway I got my gear on safety glasses and ear protecting muffs, I loaded the little .22 Magnum handgun(chrome in color with a rosewood handle, was pretty) So I finally shot it about 8 times before the bottom chamber(had two chambers,fired 2 at once) didn't shoot the ammo out and it kept doing it that...so my Intuition strongly kicked on and I instantly stopped using it, so then with the owner of the range being a world class marksmen and a State Trooper, I told and showed him the issue. He examined the gun and told me it was very unsafe and He was suprised the ammo didn't blow up inside the barrel while I was holding it! Needless to say I returned it yesterday afterwards and got a .32 Auto instead. I like the way the gun looks but thinking I am going to try to go with a 9mm pistol instead for many reasons. So today when I went to the range to shoot the .32 (holds 6 rds) I shot for awhile and it was actually a lot of fun and I have NEVER been a gun person so to speak. But I messed up by after shooting a round, while I was reloading the mag, i took my ear muffs off and when I went to shoot again forgot to put them back on until the first shot and my left ear started to ring. So now ever since my ear has been feeling super odd like I am hearing through a funnel or something. Hopefully it will be gone by 2moro :-) Moving on to the blog i prepared late last night. I wrote on this topic for many reasons, I am an observer, a people watcher by nature and examine everything about them without even realizing it lol. One thing I have noticed over the past few years is not only many very KNOWLEDGEABLE young people being underestimated due to their age. I think that is just flat out rude and wrong, I have dealt with this many times and still do every once in a while and it's not only frustrating but a bit hurtful..so if you are over the age of 40 and reading this blog...give us/the young people with knowledge and gifts, a chance...YOU might acutally learn from them or vice versa :-) Moving on...  I have noticed people in our society love things and use people. People are used to getting places in life and some in many easy ways , climbing ladders, and selling and buying stuff,needless stuff or too much. Things,People, Celebs, even the kids, are what most people fantasize about and sought after in the same greedy ways.  Most of us Westerners live with more, but have much in the materialistic sense/realm and increasingly less in the spiritual and emotional sense/realm. We may have flashy new cars, nice homes, a boat, the latest tablets or PCs, and lots of technological gadgets and other stuff. More than we'd ever use half the time in our lives. Or if we do use them all, there's less time left for doing 'internal' work with ourselves or relating ,helping, and communicating peacefully with people which is way more important. Not only do we love things but we tend to use people. Our closest relationships are typically there for us, and for our disposal, which isn't a good idea unless it is toxic and unfixable for you. We all love our spouses, kids, and families but how often do we sell them out to/for our own needs? Has being kind of selfish been a starter for a arguement? Ask yourself that and think about it and chances are we all have done it at one point. Even those at work, colleagues and acquaintances, where they may try to mentally conceive where they might manipulate a discussion, meeting or relationship to serve their own purposes -- for instance, to be heard, promoted, etc. The final straw is where the selfish behavior of using people reaches the lowest standard, where many  people are consistantly abused wholesale for making innocent mistakes, being too nice or generou, and yet we try and gain a fractional advantage by swapping lanes incessantly.Sick...Do I sound harsh? Perhaps. There is no doubt there are many people who have the balance the other way, the right way, around. That is to put people first and utilize things as required. "Love people, use things" could be the motto.

What should we do to reinforce the motto?

Love People:

- Listen to people and be patient with them.

- Be prepared to lose the odd battle for the greater benefit of the team (or family).

- Give more than you receive.

- Say sorry often when you make mistakes and mean it.

- Give people the best resource you can give them; your time and Love. Now that's a good investment!

- When you're out in the world, respect and care about  fellow human beings, especially people you don't know.

Use Things:

- Resist the love of things. Stop materialism in its NOW.

- Reject "retail therapy" as a poor excuse it is.

- Be thankful for the things you've accumulated but don't worship them.

- Don't waste the resources available to you; respect them appropriately and appreciate what you DO have.

- Try sharing your things with other people, and even give them away if they serve you no valid purpose anymore.

No one would admit to not loving their families or friends as much as their stuff, materialism,ego, etc,, but this is a firm challenge for each one of us to get the balance more into the "love people, use things" life pattern. If we do this we can also tap into the reservoir of our own psyche to not only become a better person, but become more balanced and more spiritual at the same time. It just irritates me thinking about people like this.

FEEL FREE TO FOLLOW, SHARE, COMMENT, EMAIL, OR JUST READ :-)   TRULY, DENNIS KELLY

Are You happy?

Hello Friends, before I get to the blog I prepared for you, I have some stuff to vent about lol. So bare with me of course it is my blog, but I enjoy YOU stopping by too :-) Well Lately has been so busy with Doctor appointments, Meetings, Prior engagments/events, The radio show and LIFE lol. Now I don't like to talk about my health issues in public but right now I need ALL of YOU prayer warriors to send prayers my way please. :-) 2moro I will be getting yet another urology surgery, This is a must I can not get out of the surgery...trust me I would. Without going into great detail on the actual surgery/my business, the surgeons will be going into my bladder and the kidney areas to remove any and all scar tissue. This condition is rare and not much is known about it, it did not begin until I was around 26 I think..could be off a bit on the age, but nevertheless I had got smaller similar surgeries after but only like 2 in a four year period. But the past 3 years at least the tissue grows back at such a rapid rate that I  now must recieve surgery every 6 weeks 8 if Im lucky. The doctors tell me they are baffled at the speed of it as much as I am. Yes I have been to many doctors. Moving on and btw if you have a question regarding what I just told YOU, email don't ask on a public social network Thank you....A few days ago was the local trunk and treat here downtown, and then the following evening I went with family to take my little cousins and nephew to Hazlet state park, a really beautiful Camping and Nature Reserve. The place had treats everywhere for the kids and was decorated beyond belief! Hats off to all the good people that put the event together. On a side note, the radio show is finally starting to spark my interest again thankfully. I have been trying to add some interesting change slowly to the show such as having a monthly Guest Co-host Ms. Roxanne Bare. She is a local lady that owns and operates an awesome shop Terra Matter Botanicals and Market, heres the site if you would like to shop www.terramatermarket.com Anywhoo Roxanne has co-hosted once so far and the radio/hosting dynamics during the show was great and fun, I really enjoyed having her on and I was suprised a bit by her too because she handled herself very well on-air especially with the crazy guest we had on lol. So yes I'm optimistic about the show a lot more than I had been. We also have a new short segment "Words of Dawn" where a Local woman comes and shares some of her homegrown poetry with us. Also We have a Guest DJ monthly Named Konner :-) Konner is a very special 9 or 10 year old <not sure if hes 10 yet lol> You see Konner suffers from a Horrible Horrible Health Issue(s) I wont go into detail but you can find more info on Facebook. He does a great Job being a DJ and I pray for him to grow up and have a great life in radio, he seems to like it a lot :-) Ok Now I will shut UP! LOL..below is a blog I put together, it came to me at about 3a.m. Last night so I figured It is for someone out there or perhaps myself lol. Enjoy my friends!


                                  "Are You Happy?"

Most,not all but most people spend their lives in a cycle/ routine. They wake up, have breakfast, go to work, go home, have dinner, pay bills, Family matters, sleep, etc. For others, they spend their days at home doing chores or watch the kids etc. and do same the next day and so on  and so on... It's not surprising that people feel bored and unhappy about their lives and experience way too much stress  than they should more often than not, I know I've been there plenty of times personally. Although there are others that are comfortable with the life they have and don't have any plans or goals of making any POSITIVE changes in life or in the life of others..We all want to live a happy life, one secret most do not realize is to simply enjoy life without having to make excuses that you don't have enough time, money, materialistic things, because you can start enjoying your life now with what you already have, because remember someone out in this world has NOTHING..... Add excitement to your life and it doesn't always mean that you need to go out, shop or even go for a vacation. You can still have fun while doing your daily routine or use your personal time to do exciting things. GET CREATIVE AND START THINKING POSITIVE NO MATTER WHAT!  Here are simple ways that I try sometimes, YOU can GIVE THEM A TRY yourself and SEE the difference my friends!

 Explore - Have you been taking the same route when you drive to work or home? Why not take a different route next time so you'll get to see a different scenery.

 Be more adventurous - Doing something new or different once in awhile. Try eating an exotic food or engage yourself in sports that you haven't tried before. Try doing something creative, painting, drawing, creating, etc.

 Challenge yourself - It doesn't matter what it is, just do something that you normally don't do and then push yourself to the limit. It's exciting if you have accomplished something you never thought you could and boost your self-confidence and add to your self-esteem. I know this from past events in my personal life.

 Make new friends/networks - In meeting new people, you may also discover new things about many interesting people, I certainly have met plenty of people especially certain ones that have had and still do have positive impacts on my life..

 Plan an adventure - Take your kids or kids in your family  to a park,  hiking, boating, to the beach or go camping. There's nothing more exciting than spending time with your family kids and have an adventure together. It's priceless to watch them learn what you teach them and watch them grom, They are a true Blessing!

 Do volunteer work - Helping other people are both exciting and rewarding. You will truly find joy if you do something good for others. Nursing homes are a perfect place to start these poor lonely people need love and attention just like YOU do.

 Get a hobby - do something you love the most and follow your passion because this will make you centered in times of irritation, works for me anyway :-)

 Laugh more - Watch a funny movie, show, or read a funny book. You can even watch cartoons with your kids or go to a comedy club. Laughter is fun, it's good for your Soul, and it's free.

 Live in the now - Forget the past and the future is not here yet. Live your life today and make the most out of right now.

. Stop worrying - Don't waste your energy and time thinking about things that are not worth thinking about or things you can't change right now. Every time your mind is stuck at worrying, you are wasting a good opportunity to enjoy your day and Life. Think positive and don't let your negative thoughts get the better of you. What do you actually think you are gaining something from being a worry bug? NO. Trust me I should know this is something I battle with sometimes also.

It is our days that define our life and no matter what our choices are, you have to remember that you only have one life to live so don't waste it by depriving yourself of the simple, materialistic, pleasures in this life. No amount of money will help you enjoy life to the fullest, no relationship will complete you to the fullest, these temporary material things will make you a false happiness if you convince yourself that your life will be better if you have them. But in the long run do YOU honestly think it's worth it? Make the choice to be happy now and enjoy life to the fullest.

Friends, thank you yet again for stopping by my blog. I appreciate each and everyone of you around the world. Feel free to share, comment. follow, etc. Bless you all! Truly Dennis