"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
Hi Friends, It has been a super long week ugh! Even though I don't really have any set days off of works and projects. Sunday's are the easiest day and my favorite day of the week..its laid back..usually lol. This week my cell has become a complete piece of bat guano to say the least. So after at least 7 years or more of constant issues with cell phones and plans and such. I am choosing to go complete NO contract and total prepaid. I have did my research YOU folks in a contract may get just one perk that I can think of by being trapped in the contract and that perk is that you get the phone you want at a very cheap price compared to the complete price. So if you want an Iphone5 save up and buy one prepaid or what ever kind of phone you want. By doing this switch 2moro, I will not only be in a trapped contract anymore but will save well over $100 a month. Not to mention have the SAME features and unlimited everything including data. Yes the phone I get won't be the same as the crap phone i have now lol. But I have researched and found one comparable to the Samsung Galax S2,which is the phone that went nuts on me not to mention SPRINT's service in my area is horrible. The New prepaid carrier I am chosing uses At&t and Verizon towers to bounce from..to me this is good lol. I will for sure give YOU a review on the new phone venture lol. Now moving on to the reason I am blogging this late, basically already early today lol. Anywhooo, I want to speak about empathy and the total LACK of empathy that seems to spreading to many and across the world for quite sometime now....As an anonymous English author wrote: "To empathize is to see with the eyes of another, to hear with the ears of another, and to feel with the heart of another." You may wonder why is empathy important?In my opinion the real world bottom line, is that the lack of empathy leads to poor communication and a failing to understand others. Lack of empathy leads to all sorts of problems in our world. I mean seriously LOOK around our world is literally falling apart.....Nations going to war nonstop, innocent people are killed, couples divorce, increase in all forms of crime and violence and so much more horrible things occuring as you read - ALL for a lack of empathy and understanding. It is natural to become angry when frustrated or irritated with people who do or say things at variance our worldview, that may be annoying, a parasite etc. To manage anger, it often helps to see our anger as a combination of their behavior and our actual lack of empathy. While we cannot control other's thoughts, feelings or behaviors, we most certainly can increase our empathy skills. To try and control our anger with increased empathy, three basic skills are required: listening, self-awareness and acceptance. Empathic listening is a type of listening that goes further than ordinary listening. This type of listening uses another person's point of view to see the world as others see it. It provides a higher level of understanding of how others feel. With what I call "Intuitive Empathic" to me goes deeper than this sort of emapthy...that will be future blog lol. Self-awareness occurs as we better understand our own thoughts and feelings. I believe we are then better able to understand the thoughts and feelings of someone else. The more open we are to our own feelings, the more skilled we become at reading someone else's feelings, and generally the less angry we may feel toward them. Acceptance, on the other hand, is the ability to see that others have a right to their "ridiculous" feelings. We must allow people to have feelings without telling them how they should feel. We cannot stop others from having feelings. Someone with normal emapthy would understand this. When we accept others as they are, it simply means that we understand that they are doing the best they can at the time. Remember, if they could do any better, they probably would. Acceptance of others' feelings is not easy when people act differently than we do. We all have difficulty with those who are different, even if a tiny bit. By tapping into the skill of empathy, we will be better able to understand ourselves and others. Here are are just a few lil simple rules I i personally use in addition to other things within myself to be more empathetic.
*Pay attention to the feelings that others express. Watch for both verbal and nonverbal clues as well as body laugnage . Try to understand the message behind the words and actions.
*Place the feelings of other's ahead of your own. Put aside your own needs and ideas long enough to listen to another's point of view.
*Communicate your understanding. Respond or give answers to the messages you receive to show you understand them in a major way if not fully.
* Actually LISTEN not merely just hear.... Let the speaker finish what they are saying before you talk.
*Ask the person to elaborate more or ask for more information. If you still don't understand, ask more questions until you fully understand.
Well I hope Friends this little thought of mine may have interested or hopefully helped someone out there in this hectic world find peace or what they may have been needing.
Thanks Friends for stopping by! I deeply appreciate all of you who stop by and read my world as well as those of you who are FOLLOWERS and COMMENT. I thank you all!
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