NOVEMBER 15, 2013
Hi Friends, I hope each and everyone of you are
well and happy. Today I am not going to touch base
on my life too much, instead I will get straight to my
blog point.
You see I do many types of works, not just
Radio/Entertainment. One of the Jobs/Service that I do is Intuitive advisory. I counsel great people locally and globally, this is all done in a highly sensitive and confidential manner for many reasons. I often get clients that have major relationship issues with loved ones and so forth. There are some people that become very distraught and disappointed when a breakup, divorce, fight, or even loss of occupation(s). So let's say you're disappointed. Your dream, hopes, etc. has ended in the trashbin you may feel. So, after you get finished with the tears, cursing, laying on the floor, kicking your heels, and screaming; or going on a drunken/drug/food binge, or even beating someone up, you find you're still disappointed, and all that
you do? Disappointment is a dead-end in your road of life.
Now you need to figure out a new direction.
When what you're doing in a job, project, relationship
or to pursue a dream is not working no matter what
you try, even if you've gotten some expert advice on
the issue at hand, (relationship counseling, etc.) that
it's not going to work, it's probably a sign to move
on. I think One must first Check to see if you are resisting doing what you know you need to do to make it work, and if you won't or can't do it, then you're wasting your time, emotions, energy, and it's time to change directions. If you gave it your absolute very best shot, and you still know it's over, then don't waste ANY time whatsoever in resentment and anger. It will hold you back and could eventually harm you in many ways.
If you do however need to get therapy of sorts to help
you through this transition, I say without a doubt do it, so you can grieve what's lost.
Even if you ended it, you still may feel you have lost all of your hopes and dreams. My personal opinion is to focus on moving forward to building a good
life in your newly disappointed feeling circumstance(s). Make sure you take care
of yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically.
You'll feel a lot less resentment if you keep yourself
together and in good health, spend time with a good
friend or family member this needed for your support
too.
This is the definite time to have your TRUE friends and/or
family around you, you need support everyone does in some way. Don't isolate yourself(trust me I would know), you don't have to go right out and start something new again at all, I strongly suggest going slow with that. Also you should have a social outlet of sorts with friends and family.
Even when you don't think you feel ready to see
people, push through and go and visit/see your closest
friends and family. Spend time with them they'll help
you heal, (along with time of course) and remind you
that you still have people who love you.
Here's some little "do's & don'ts" that I recommend:
DO put it all in an "outer" perspective when thinking about the disappointment, and YES it does hurt, but your life is not over. Look to your future, and see what you can do to make that disappointment into a blessing.
DO understand that you had some control, but not complete control over this. Look at what happened. What possibly caused your loss? You can improve your effort, your skills, your spirit and look forward to the next chapter in your life. On the other hand, don't blame yourself for the things you couldn't control. Take a balanced view of the entire situation.
DON'T give up No one is a failure until they quit.
Don't quit when you're behind. Instead, get determined to do the BEST you can at every task you encounter.
DO try to for sure learn from the experience, Every disappointment/failure is a moment you can grow from. You can learn from whatever went wrong. Re-play your (mental or actual) tapes of the event, and try to figure out how you can improve.
DON'T expect everyone to sympathize beyond the first few moments. Sympathy is OK and needed...but only for a short while, it can debilitate you in the grand scheme of things. Makesure to meditate/pray often and eventually You'll feel better and strong enough build yourself back up, dust yourself off, and get back in the game of life friends because not one of us is promised a 2moro.
Well friends, I hope this little blog helped someone out there in this crazy world. I'm no doctor "Phil" but I know the HUMAN ways of things for the most part anyway lol. Thanks for stopping by my blog today.
Truly, Dennis Kelly
