"When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen."-Ernest Hemingway
Hi Friends, today I would like to talk a bit about what is on my mind pertaining people these days in general on how most but not all, people just don't really LOVE or CARE anymore for OTHERS....
In Life we have all been hurt, so naturally we try to prevent ourselves from being hurt again. So we try to protect ourselves. We put up walls.
These walls can be in many forms:
over-weight or under-weight
over-eating
eating unhealthy
over-spending
debt
drinking alcohol
addictions
over-working
time on the computer
watching too much TV
playing video games
focusing on others and not taking care of yourself
These numb us.
Here is a newsflash... this is what i'd call fear. It sure isn't self-love. It is self-hate. You can NOT be in fear and love at the same time. People Love your neighbor as you do yourself.
So if we are in fear, can we really be loving others? If we are not loving ourselves can we really be loving others? I think the answer is no. If we are in fear, we aren't loving ourselves or others. We are making our choices out of fear. For ourselves and others. We may think we are protecting others by limiting them, by keeping them small ( like a child), but we are operating out of our own hurts and fears. This harms us and others. If we saw someone being physically abused, we would probably say it isn't love, it is hate. Present day public acts of hate/violence happen everyday and it's everyday people see this occur and turn their heads. That too is Hate.....hate deep in the heart and mind... NOW do we notice it in our own lives? Do we see how we may be abusing others? Ya know folks, Abuse can come in many forms such as Physical, Emotional, Mental etc. It even happens online, on Facebook, Twitter, at work, etc. Sometimes we aren't even aware of it. It is in our subconscious beliefs. Perhaps It is what we've been programmed about relationships? I've seen some people programmed/learned that others are out to get us. So then those people protect theirselves by harming the people that are (out to get them) first. Or by isolating theirselves with walls. Both the Bully and the Abused have been hurt. So whether we abuse ourselves or allow others to abuse ourselves, we are hating ourselves. And the Bully hates himself or herself also. Maybe its an odd way of both recreating their pasts. Forgive yourself friends and Forgive others. But that doesn't mean to allow the abuse to continue. You'll become a doormat. You'll hate yourself and them. That's not healthy...
SO IF YOU are ready to begin or increase spreading love to others...now is the time. You can't control others choices if they choose not to love....BUT, remember one small random loving act of kindness can go around the world in a BIG way. Just keep in mind these little pointers below...
*It isn't love. You can't stay in relationships with repeated abuse. It isn't healthy for You or your partner,friends,family,etc.
*Don't choose Fear (or hate). Choose LOVE
*Don't harm yourself. Love yourself.
*Choose people who don't limit you or harm you or ones who are toxic to your life source. Choose loving and supportive people in your life.
*Don't harm others. Love others.
Thanks For Visiting my little spot here in the magical land of the internet!
Feel free to comment, share, express, etc. Truly, Dennis..
Hi Friends, today I would like to talk a bit about what is on my mind pertaining people these days in general on how most but not all, people just don't really LOVE or CARE anymore for OTHERS....
In Life we have all been hurt, so naturally we try to prevent ourselves from being hurt again. So we try to protect ourselves. We put up walls.
These walls can be in many forms:
over-weight or under-weight
over-eating
eating unhealthy
over-spending
debt
drinking alcohol
addictions
over-working
time on the computer
watching too much TV
playing video games
focusing on others and not taking care of yourself
These numb us.
Here is a newsflash... this is what i'd call fear. It sure isn't self-love. It is self-hate. You can NOT be in fear and love at the same time. People Love your neighbor as you do yourself.
So if we are in fear, can we really be loving others? If we are not loving ourselves can we really be loving others? I think the answer is no. If we are in fear, we aren't loving ourselves or others. We are making our choices out of fear. For ourselves and others. We may think we are protecting others by limiting them, by keeping them small ( like a child), but we are operating out of our own hurts and fears. This harms us and others. If we saw someone being physically abused, we would probably say it isn't love, it is hate. Present day public acts of hate/violence happen everyday and it's everyday people see this occur and turn their heads. That too is Hate.....hate deep in the heart and mind... NOW do we notice it in our own lives? Do we see how we may be abusing others? Ya know folks, Abuse can come in many forms such as Physical, Emotional, Mental etc. It even happens online, on Facebook, Twitter, at work, etc. Sometimes we aren't even aware of it. It is in our subconscious beliefs. Perhaps It is what we've been programmed about relationships? I've seen some people programmed/learned that others are out to get us. So then those people protect theirselves by harming the people that are (out to get them) first. Or by isolating theirselves with walls. Both the Bully and the Abused have been hurt. So whether we abuse ourselves or allow others to abuse ourselves, we are hating ourselves. And the Bully hates himself or herself also. Maybe its an odd way of both recreating their pasts. Forgive yourself friends and Forgive others. But that doesn't mean to allow the abuse to continue. You'll become a doormat. You'll hate yourself and them. That's not healthy...
SO IF YOU are ready to begin or increase spreading love to others...now is the time. You can't control others choices if they choose not to love....BUT, remember one small random loving act of kindness can go around the world in a BIG way. Just keep in mind these little pointers below...
*It isn't love. You can't stay in relationships with repeated abuse. It isn't healthy for You or your partner,friends,family,etc.
*Don't choose Fear (or hate). Choose LOVE
*Don't harm yourself. Love yourself.
*Choose people who don't limit you or harm you or ones who are toxic to your life source. Choose loving and supportive people in your life.
*Don't harm others. Love others.
Thanks For Visiting my little spot here in the magical land of the internet!
Feel free to comment, share, express, etc. Truly, Dennis..
